If only we could wake up every morning feeling awesome and with a big smile on our faces. It would be amazing but let’s get real, that shit doesn’t happen. We have our good days and we have our not so good days or as I like to call them “shit ass days”. Yesterday I woke up in a funk and was totally having a “shit ass day”. Now the thing that sucks the most about being a parent and having one of these days, is that you have to get your ass up out of bed. You have to be a parent because you have responsibilities and little lives that depend on you. The days before kids where you could just hide out in bed under your covers all day are long gone. And if you don’t deal with this shit right away one day turns into two and then rolls into a week. At that point you’re no good to yourself let alone anyone else so how do you cope and deal to get over it? I’m no expert but I can totally share a few things that help me and who knows might help you too.
First thing is first! You need to pull yourself together and get the fuck outta bed…no matter how much you don’t want to you just have to do it. For me I find that the longer I stay in bed avoiding the world the worst it gets. So get out of bed and pull yourself together. Take a shower, get dressed, have breakfast and do whatever it is you do as a part of your morning routine. I’m not saying to ignore your feelings because that’s the last thing you want to do. Own your feelings…if wanna be a miserable fuck go for it, if you want to ball your eyes out then do it, if you want to play depressing music all day there’s nothing wrong with that either and if you just want to be alone and avoid people that’s cool too but at least let one person in. I find that having that one person could be a huge help, you don’t need to vent to them but you can if you want and often times a friend won’t leave you hanging and will get you to smile.
Crappy quality selfie taken at Lee’s Palace while hanging with ma boys Pat & Roddy
Yesterday this stupid mood got me good and slowed me down and I almost didn’t go to kickboxing but I pushed myself and am so happy went. I got to clear my mind, I was distracted and I got to punch it out and kick it out which is an awesome stress reliever. It could be kickboxing for you or yoga or maybe something totally different but taking some time to just let off some steam and clear your mind helps. Truthfully it’s all about being selfish if you want me to be honest. You need to do it for yourself because you can only make YOU happy. Stop and think about what makes you happy, in my case it’s music and so last night I said fuck my soccer game I’m going to see my buddy Pat Robitaille play a show down at Lee’s Palace and went with my good friend Roddy. Honestly it was the best thing I could have ever done cuz nothing beats great music, tons of laughs and awesome company. By the end of the night I had a smile on my face and was feeling so much better.
These days happen and they aren’t fun but if you can stop to recognize what’s going on and do something about it then your half way there. Call up a friend that you know will have your back and put a smile on your face, do something you love and get out for a good hang…trust me, you’ll feel better and when you feel better you can’t help but smile and be happy.
(Pat Robitaille & Roddy Colmer making me laugh like they always do)
Make yourself a priority because life is more than being a parent!
P.S. If you want an instant smile CLICK HERE and check out this kick ass track that Pat & Roddy wrote together ♥